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reSLience… a.k.a. resilience

it's what lies within that really matters

I am going to take a “Venting Fast.”  And this is quite the week to do it – with a major move ahead of me and a week packed full of meetings… but what the heck 🙂 why not! 🙂  Anyone else interested?  Let me know – I’d love to have you join me!

What’s a venting fast?
On the surface, it’s a simple thing. Here are the instructions:

  1. For a period of time, say a week or a month, stop complaining aloud about anything, to anybody.
  2. When the urge to fuss arises, vent on paper. Start with the words “I’m upset about.” Then describe whatever’s bothering you.
  3. Think of at least one thing you can do to actually change the frustrating situation. Write it down.
  4. If you can’t think of any positive action steps, simply continue to resist venting out loud. Eventually, your frustration will increase until you think, “I’m so upset I just want to…” Write down what you want to do.
  5. Do it. Divorce the guy, cuss in front of your fundamentalist sister, put off lunching with the passive-aggressive “friend” until the end of time.

If you think that a venting fast requires willpower, you’re half right. After a few whine-free days, you’ll find that it also requires courage—possibly more than you’ve ever used. To understand why anyone would put themselves through a venting fast, it helps to know a little about the psychological dynamics of complaint.

~ Martha Beck, Martha Beck’s Anti-Complain Campaign



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