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Monthly Archives: October 2009

I just jumped out of the shower.  A Sunday night shower before an early Monday morning.  An atypical Monday morning where Dave will make sure all our precious peewees make it to their destined bus rides to start their week, rather than me.

I got to thinking about the weekend.  This weekend was fairly unscheduled.  It was open.  It involved mandatory trips to the store and the usual meal preparation but other than that… it was me and barbies and legos and television candy (the stuff Mom wants to watch, not just the kids) and good friends online. It involved some fun new tools I learned about from Discovery (yes the competition had an online conference).  It involved a bit of cleaning (sadly not a big enough bit).

But… it did involve some BIG pieces of snuggling.  As I write this I gaze down at my two youngest who fell asleep beside me this evening.  It did involve helping and giving back (mostly on the part of my husband who did a round trip to pick up a car a few hours away with my dad).  It did involve a charitable event in which we raised $12,000L (what is that in RL anyway?) for Making Strides Against Breast Cancer.  It did also involve good friends in SL.  The conversation this afternoon went something like this…

“if I have had friendships that have lasted almost 3 years and he/she can’t keep one longer than 6 months… then the problem obviously isn’t with me”

chocolate and friends

chocolate and friends

It got me thinking about the friends I have… the ones in both RL and SL.  It got me thinking about the people I have invested in… months, and years.  Some as many as 15 years… some closer to 8 years… and some just under 3 years… pixelated or not…  I love them all.  They have been with me at the lowest lows and loved me anyway.  They have ridden the highest highs and giggled and enjoyed some craziness.  Some are friends I am just now reacquainting myself with from 15 or more years ago.  The little notes we exchange remind me of how much I valued them in my life long ago and how glad I am they are back.

This weekend was about resting.  Sometimes we need sleep.  Sometimes we need quiet.  Sometimes we need a good long hot shower with yummy smelling bodywash.  Sometimes we just need a long hug and feel safe.

Dave keeps telling me to expect what I can’t even imagine as a solution to so many things troubling me.  I hold tight to that.  I remind myself over and over throughout the journey of a week’s time to imagine supernatural and keep the faith.  I will do that this next week again.  Cheers to all the real things we cherish in our lives — family, children, friends.  Hold tight.  Be kind.  Help someone else feel safe.  Expect surprises.  Have faith.

A place to remember...

A place to remember...


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The WeatherPixie

At least finding this weather pixie makes the warm weather a bit more fun 😉

an Arizona sunsetToday is Blog Action Day 2009:  Climate Change.  I’ve thought all day long what to write about.  I’ve read the updates as they came through.  I got excited about the worldwide momentum in the blogosphere.  Yet… my post didn’t materialize.  Often when I drive, I find the posts take root.  Today…  I waited and waited.

Was it the start of my day in a low flow shower?  Was it my kids willingly taking out the recycling?  Was it the excitement of my 11 year old over trying out the new “air powered” vacuum attachment to our central vac that uses less energy?  Was it everyone’s decision in the house to turn off the water while brushing teeth? Or turning up the A/C a few degrees before leaving the house?

Maybe it was my commute to work in the HOV lane in my small hybrid car?  Maybe it was the plastic bottle I threw in the blue container instead of the round trash bin on my way out of the parking garage?

Was it my choice to take notes on my laptop rather than paper?  Or my decision to view online rather than print out?

Was it the conscious choice my colleague made to save scraps of foam core board for another project rather than throw away unused portions?

Was it the decision to open the windows and let in the cool evening air and save the air conditioning?  Turn off a few extra lights and unplug a few unnecessary items?

So much in our world consumes our need to take take and take some more of resources that are finite.  In our rush to move on to the next best and greatest thing on our to do list, we often take the small decisions for granted.  However… at the end of the day… is it the collection of all our decisions… the lump sum… that shows how we can ultimately make a difference with one small decision at a time?

If you choose to not let something begin with you — that is a choice.  If you decide saving the planet is just a cause someone dreamt up to be hip and that it really is all a facade then  this is not the post for you.  If you believe that even the smallest Hoo in Hooville can make a difference… then I challenge you to think through your day… from small to big things and see where you made a difference.

I know change is hard.  It takes 21 days to create a habit.  We have recycled for years but it has just been recently that our kids have really started taking pride in the recycle bin filling faster than the trash.  They are slowly understanding electricity and water usage.  They are the future scientists I help imagine a better world each and every day.  They are the ones who I dream a better world for and I pray each and every one begins to see.. the small differences each of us can make as individuals.

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I was surprised to realize it has been a month since I last blogged.  My head spins to think of how fast time has flown… the back to school blur… the 9 weeks that has led us finally to Fall break…  the long work days and many Saturdays that meant time away from family…  we are here… we are in 60 degree mornings and 80 degree afternoons… we made it.

We have moved from the heat into battling the latest bugs that Fall brings.  I wanted to post at least a small something to let you know I haven’t gone away forever… just disappeared for a bit into the busy-ness that is every day.

Cheers to the change of the seasons and the possibilities that Fall brings for all of us!