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You just never know when you’ll hear something that will change your perspective.  Mornings are quite the sprint for lack of a better metaphor before coffee kicks in.  Rachel was up lots in the night coughing and Dave and I did the…. “Who should call off” debate.  Rachel proved us both wrong and our tough little gal with a little of cough syrup said “I’m going – I’m not missing school today!”  Yeah, she IS my daughter 😉

So we launched into hyperdrive with 30 minutes to go.  Lunch – clothes – SOCKs from the overflowing bin of socks waiting to be matched.  Backpack – sweatshirt – taming those curly locks.  We all piled into the car, said blessings and were off.

As my sweet babies boarded the bus (yes even my 11 year old is my baby), I stood with the other bus stop parents.  We watched 2 kids – older – probably 4th graders at least – pile out of a suburban with extra bags.  They were having trouble carrying all their stuff – an extra backpack between the 2 of them and some milk containers they kept dropping.  Please keep in mind we have a good 25+ kids at our bus stop – so boarding is a relatively slow process, much to the chagrin of the waiting morning commuters.

I turned to the other parents and we all lamented the poor kids juggling too much stuff and feeling the typical Monday blues a little more than usual with the loss of the Arizona Cardinals when one dad said… that is the little girl who’s mom had breast cancer.  Her mom died yesterday.   Yesterday.  Wow.  Our house was sad about the Cardinals losing.  How trite.  That little girl had spent the night with neighbors probably because her dad was with her mom or grieving or whatever happens when a spouse dies.  Her mom died.  She spent the day with neighbors.  No matter how long the battle of cancer – no matter how much she would have been prepared for the loss, the loss would leave a hole… always.

I watched the 2 kids get on the bus.  My own Monday morning chaos brought to a hault.  It shouldn’t be so hard to be a kid.  Once again I’m reminded no matter how hard we think our own journey is, there most likely is always someone else who needs us to be strong and offer support because their journey may be even harder.

No doubt that mom is in a better place today.  Cancer is a monster.  My hope is that her little girl will have lots of love – from people she knows and even from people she doesn’t.  Life is hard.  It just shouldn’t be that hard to be a kid.  Blessings on her.  Blessings on all of us on this Monday morning.


That I would be good even if I did nothing
That I would be good even if I got the thumbs down
That I would be good if I got and stayed sick
That I would be good even if I gained ten pounds

That I would be fine even even if I went bankrupt
That I would be good if I lost my hair and my youth
That I would be great if I was no longer queen
That I would be grand if I was not all knowing

That I would be loved even when I numb myself
That I would be good even when I am overwhelmed
That I would be loved even when I was fuming
That I would be good even if I was clingy

That I would be good even if I lost sanity
That I would be good
Whether with or without you

Some Mondays are harder than others. Today is hard. I needed to post this so I could get it out of my system and start picturing bigger and better things. It is hard to not feel like you measure up. It is hard to feel like you chose a path in the road that was harder than everyone elses… and now there is no turning back.

Half full suggestions anyone?

You’ve got to get up every morning with a smile on your face, and show the world all the love in your heart. Then people gonna treat you better; You’re gonna find, yes, you will, that you’re beautiful as you feel.
— Carole King

I was worried on Friday when I looked at my schedule for next week (now TOMORROW) that I better just sleep at work. My colleague even offered to put cots in one of our downstairs training rooms for purposes of napping and then getting back up and starting to work again… kinda like what they do in hospitals for doctors.

THEN I thought a little further about my fab four and their 2nd week of school, and all that entailed… and um… honestly… I had a moment of panic! I have enjoyed my time off this summer with my kids more than other summers I think. Or… it is just that all that seems so long ago that I enjoyed it just as much, I just can’t remember?

I love the look on their faces when they ask if I will be here when they get home from school and I can say yes. I love the look on their faces when they ask if it is a “stay home day” aka the weekend… and the answer is yes. Sunday mornings are my favorite too. Nobody cares about staying in pajamas. Nobody feels the need to eat breakfast quick and run out the door. The first trip of the morning ends up being one to get donuts 🙂

If I think about the whole week all together – every piece – work, kids, money, commute, bills… you will hear a scream to encompass the globe. So… I try to follow Carole King’s advice… keep a smile on my face… and just focus on the next thing at hand. For now, that next thing is just enjoying the moment that is Sunday morning. We have a Bedrock party tonight on SL. Blissie promises to be home today for a Sunday field trip. I have helped D figure out facebook. We have tried to curb Simon’s endless 5 year old requests with sugar and tickles. Rachel is off playing the newest online fascination Life is good… despite the fact it is August and over 105… life is good 🙂

One other note… saddened by Bernie Mac’s untimely death… I thought this was a clip worth sharing. He had the right idea too – do what makes you happy… and most importantly choose to be happy!

So – after seeing all this laundry and figuring that those items were scrubbed by hand I felt:

  1. Glad that I had a washing machine
  2. Thankful that I only had 4 kids and my laundry didn’t have to hang out the window in front of God and everyone
  3. Relieved I could finally head to the office and find serenity at work

Ok – did I just say “find serenity at work?” As a matter of fact I did! I tell you – a week off with 4 flu-sick kids is not the spa vacation package I had hoped for – although my hands are extra extra sparkly clean from scrubbing.

It is a relief to be back in the land of grownups and realize that I can still form complete sentences when people ask me questions and no one is needing me to hand them a bucket to puke in or wipe their poopy bottom. (I know, I know, TMI).

How’s your Monday? Any Hoooing at the water cooler today? And most importantly – are you loving your job or what?

Your Job Satisfaction Level: 94%

Your job is nearly perfect – you’ve totally lucked out!

You like what you do, who you work for, and the people you work with.

And it seems like the job you have will eventually get you the job you want.

So enjoy what you’ve got. You’ve landed the ideal job!

The Caffeine Click Test - How Caffeinated Are You?
Created by – OnePlusYou

By the way – I have to tell you – I really didn’t feel chipper and perky today. But I’m glad Monday is almost over and I paid a few bills and I just get to hang out and relax – in RL and SL. Hoo!